Archive for May, 2009

5 Steps To Your Family Working Together to Eliminate Stress- Steps 1 & 2

Posted by at 31 May, 2009, 7:03 pm

Have you ever wondered how it would be to come home from a long day at the office and be stress free.  Does your arrival at home normally leave you feeling immediately stressed out, wishing that you could get back into the car and even go back to work where at least there isn’t arguing and chaos.  If you have a family with school age children you may never think that is possible ever again.  Well, I’m here to tell you that it is….

This will be the first two steps of our series that you can take in order to avoid stress and chaos upon your return home from work at the end of the day.

These tips are for families that have school age children that are capable to assist with daily activities.

First:  Everyone needs to know the weekly schedule (who is scheduled to be where and what time).  I would recommend a family meeting at the beginning of the week – Sunday evening – to go over the schedule.  This should be posted on a calendar on the refrigerator for everyone to see as a reminder.  This will also give children the opportunity to remind you of events that they may have forgotten to tell you about earlier and it will avoid the mass rush of trying to figure out who needs to be picked up when and most importantly, if you will need assistance from a friend or neighbor in the delivery and pickup of your children from their events.  This gives you and your spouse (or significant other) the opportunity to share responsibility of the children and their activities.

Second:  Everything that can be prepared in the evening for the next day should be done prior to going to bed.  This could be preparing lunches or setting out lunch money, laying out clothes to be worn the next day, defrosting meat that can be put into the crockpot for the next evening’s meal, ironing, loading of backpacks, school forms signed, checks made out and anything else that you can think of.  Being prepared for the next day will allow you to get a better night’s rest, wake-up without stress and begin the day with a positive attitude (which will set the tone for your entire day).   The morning attitude and behavior sets the tone for their entire school day….why not make it as positive as possible?

These are two simple things that you can do to develop family routines that will help you avoid stress.  Remember, it takes 21 days for form a habit and your children are looking at you to set the example so it is extremely important that you make a commitment to these changes.

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Stress Relief is as Close as Your Breath

Posted by at 28 May, 2009, 10:59 am

You know it’s gonna be one of those days.  Your e-mail in-box is full of messages that need your attention.  The phone is ringing off the hook and the boss is looking for that  project you were supposed to complete in a week but instead he wants it now.  You feel overwhelmed with everything that needs your attention and you don’t know where to  start.  This scenario is repeated in countless offices and workplaces across the country.  No wonder we are a nation of stressed out people looking for relief.  With so much  information on how to find stress relief, we can get overwhelmed just trying to find relief!  The simplest methods are usually the best and one simple and easy stress relief  method that anyone can do without any special equipment is using their breath.

Stress leads to quick, shallow breathing which can then becomes a habit.  Some studies have shown that a fast breathing rate is linked to high blood pressure.  Other studies  show that anxiety sufferers tend to take shallow breaths from their chest.  This can lead to hyperventilation.  Hyperventilation is taking in more breaths than the body needs.  It causes a loss of carbon dioxide in the blood and can result in intense physical symptoms that are very similar to panic attacks.

Stress relief can be achieved by bringing conscious attention to our breath, lengthening and deepening the drawing in of oxygen which nourishes every cell of our body and  promotes relaxation. Prolonged exhalation helps get rid of stale air and toxins in our lungs.  Deep breathing is effective for stress relief as it helps lower blood pressure, relax  the muscles, and slow your heart and respiration rate.  It also prevents stress from building up, reduces insomnia and fatigue and reduces general anxiety.  It increases your  energy level and helps you turn off analytical thinking and racing thoughts.  Deep breathing counteracts the physical and mental affects of the fight or flight response which  is the mode our body goes into when we are under stress.  Deep breathing can also reduce anxiety when it strikes.  When practiced regularly for stress relief, the physical and  mental benefits of deep breathing may also help prevent anxiety.

The following is a simple exercise you can do to relieve stress.  Begin by sitting or lying comfortably. Breathe in slowly and deeply through your nose, counting to six.  Hold  this breath while slowly counting to six.  Exhale slowly through your mouth, slowly counting to eight.  Concentrate on counting and your breath.  Feel you lungs fill up with  air.  Feel your heart rate slow.  By exhaling more breath than you inhale, you cleanse all the stale air held in your lungs. Feel the relaxation deep breathing brings.  Repeat  this exercise several times.

Breathing for stress relief is simple.  Wherever you are, whatever you are doing you are always breathing! Making deep breathing a habit whenever you think of it will help  you feel instant relaxation and you won’t get stressed out in otherwise tense situations.

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How To Make A Stress Ball With Flour – A Simple Method To Make Your Own Stress Balls

Posted by at 26 May, 2009, 3:28 pm

Stress balls can be a great help to lower your levels of stress. Not only that, they can also help with improving your coordination, prevent debilitating illnesses such as arthritis and rheumatism, stimulate blood circulation and help with relaxation techniques such as meditation.

If you’ve ever searched for help on how to go about making a stress ball, you are likley to have come across a large number of web sites where they advise on a method of partly inflating a balloon and then using a funnel to pour in a flour or cornstarch filling to make the stress ball.

I’ve used this method and felt that it really doesn’t work very well. What often happen is that as you are opening the balloon to fill it with corn starch or flour, the air in the baloon blows out. This can result in a cloud of flour dust all over the place and hardly any inside the balloon – something that doesn’t help your stress levels!

I’ve found a very easy technique of making homemade stress balls that completely avoids this problem and makes the whole process much simpler, less messy and more enjoyable!.

Just follow the method outlined below and you will have a nice homemade stress ball without the mess.

You Will Need to Have:

1. A small size, thick round balloon.

2. An empty 2 litre plastic drinks bottle.

3. Corn starch or flour for filling the balloon.

The Technique:

1. Put your corn starch or flour, into the empty 2 litre plastic bottle.

3. Stand the bottle upright and put the balloon over the bottle rim without blowing it up.

4. Squeeze the bottle to partially inflate the balloon with air.    

5. While still squeezing the bottle, turn it upside down and shake the corn starch or flour down into the balloon.     

6. Release your grip on the bottle, and work any excess starch back out of the balloon, together with any excess air. This lets the starch settle and allows any excess filling to go back in the bottle.

7. Squeeze the end of the balloon at the bottle rim and turn the bottle back upright, carefully take off the balloon and tie it as near to the filling as you can.

After you finish making your stress ball, you might want to decorate it with stickers, or paint a face on it. It’s best to make sure your decorations will not irritate your skin or come off on your hands when you squeeze it.

And that’s basically it. You now know how to make a stress ball for very little, compared to shop bought stress balls. It’s important to remember that your home made stress balls may not last quite as long as commercially produced ones, but because they are very easy and quick to make, you can easily make new ones any time you need them.

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Toast Happens

Posted by at 26 May, 2009, 3:28 pm

I came home from a trip last week exhausted, burnt-to-a-crisp: Sleepy, achy, coffee-sodden, absolutely beat. I was toast.

A string of work-related travel, started at the beginning of October, had finally taken its toll.

“Thank heaven for frozen pizza and West Wing reruns,” I said to myself, as I curled up on the couch with my husband on Friday evening. “I’ll relax tonight, do some restorative yoga tomorrow, take a good walk with the baby, cook a nice dinner, and be back in the groove by Sunday morning.”


Too exhausted. Tried to push my way through it. Couldn’t. Too exhausted. Tried to talk myself out of it. Couldn’t. Tried to walk my way out of it. Could barely put one foot in front of the other.

Chopping vegetables helped. A little.

Finally, as Sunday afternoon rolled around, I took my woes to tea with a dear, and very wise, friend.

“I’m embarrassed,” I moaned to my friend. “I’m a Coach! I should be able to manage my energy better than this. There are things I planned to get done this weekend! I need to recover!!!

Don’t recover, uncover.

Countering my moan with a move I hadn’t expected, my friend told a story of her son who, at age 18, was diagnosed with a brain tumor, and given three to six months to live. Miraculously, however, the tumor receded, disappeared, and her son began to regain his health. ?

Naturally, my friend was impatient. She was eager for the total return of her hale, hearty, and sometimes quite fool-hardy teenager. Longing to see him up to his old tricks, she must have been pushing to get him out in the world again.

But her son knew better than she what he needed. “Mom,” he said, “you are expecting me to recover. But I’m not going to recover. I will never be my old self again. I will not recover. The tumor has made it possible for me to uncover the person I’ve always been.”

Patiently uncover yourself.

Like acupressure at just the right point, that story relaxed me. It let me feel how tired I was. It allowed me to almost enjoy it.

I remembered that slogan from Outward Bound: “If you can’t get out of, get into it!”

The story got me thinking about “uncovering” the truth beneath my exhaustion.

Over the course of these last few days, I’ve realized that I can’t drag myself back to being the person I was last September, before all of this travel started.

More importantly, I’ve uncovered a true understanding that I can’t bring back the person I was before Luke was born a year and a half ago. My routines, my priorities, my approach to life will never be the same. I feel some grief connected to that understanding.

I will not recover. But if I relax and get into it, I can gently uncover the person I really am.

Toast happens

Toast happens. We deplete our energy in the pursuit of excellence, experience, challenges, joy, money, whatever! We exhaust ourselves in the quest for a good and meaningful life. Toast happens to even the most vigilant among us.

When toast happens to you, use it. Get curious about it. Get into it.

Uncover yourself. 

Julia Fabris McBride is a certified coach, and skilled teacher and facilitator, Julia is dedicated to helping individuals and organizations know themselves deeply, and then use that knowledge to align actions with values, forge powerful connections, and do good work in the world.

Julia is an International Coach Federation Certified Coach and a graduate of Coach University. She is a certified Body-Mind Life Coaching™ Specialist.Julia Fabris McBride

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Category : Stress

Why Yoga Will Help You Manage Stress And Relax

Posted by at 25 May, 2009, 5:20 pm

Now please don’t turn your nose up at the mention of yoga.  It’s a great practice that helps you relax and get your mind and body working in unison.  And the good news is that you don’t have to be a licensed therapist or instructor to reap the health benefits of yoga.

 Even the least flexible people can do some form of yoga.  What you need to do, though, is find an exercise with which you are comfortable.  In your own quest to achieve stress management, you will find that a lot of therapists and experts turn to yoga, deep breathing and flexing as recommended stress relief techniques.

 You can practice yoga anywhere, including your own home.  Yoga is a practice, which originated in ancient India and was developed by Buddhists.  It is similar to meditation, because it gets you to focus on deep breathing as a means to get in touch with your inner being and thoughts.

 When you practice yoga, you will begin to quiet your thoughts and focus on the actions of your body alone.  This helps lower blood pressure and aids in stress management. 

 Of course, it is important to make sure you are completely comfortable when you do yoga.  If your body feels stressed, and your muscles are tight, you may want to consider some stretching exercises as a warm-up.  Even if you’re not very educated when it comes to yoga, you may want to try flexing your arms above your head, while you clasp both hands together.

 Yoga was developed over five millennia ago, and focuses on referring to the body as a temple.  What this does is teach you how to limber your body, and as a result lower your stress levels.

 There are several different kinds of yoga.  These include the following:

 Hatha Yoga

 Hatha yoga is most popular in America; it is practiced mostly by those in the western world and focuses on stretching.  Stretching exercises used in yoga may require you to sit with your legs folded on the floor as you push you weight to one side or the other.  At the same time, you may be asked to focus on deep breathing techniques, which will help relax your muscles.

 Yoga, because it is used for self-improvement, focuses more on the mind than just the body.  This is why it’s so important to let go of any negative thoughts before you begin stretching. 

According to experts, yoga is a great way to relax and reduce stress without wearing yourself out through strenuous exercise.

 Raja Yoga

Raja yoga requires that you respect both yourself and others around you. 

 As a stress management technique, yoga has a number of benefits.  For example, it helps stretch out your muscles.  As a result, you feel more relaxed, not to mention the fact that it improves your breathing.

 After a yoga session, you will find that you breathe more clearly and evenly.  In addition to helping you relax, yoga helps improve your physical health. 

 A yoga instructor may ask you to place your feet together while sitting on the floor and slowly bring your head down toward your feet.  This requires a great deal of concentration and practice, but with time, your body relaxes.  And eventually, you may actually need to stretch to keep stress at bay. 

 When you practice yoga routinely, you will begin to see its long-term benefits and how it takes the tension out of life. 

 A few other exercises that will help you relax involve stretching your legs out in front of you and reaching for your toes.  Grab your toes, and allow your arms to hold your body upright, as you feel the muscles in your legs loosen. 

 The result is an overall feeling of relaxation.  Slowly, you will begin to forget about the stressors in your life, as you immerse yourself in positive thoughts.

 It’s a known fact that relaxing is the first step to calming your mind, but did you also know that it can help you tone and improve muscle dexterity?

 This means that in addition to helping lower your stress levels, yoga also builds stamina and improves blood flow. 

 Once you’ve mastered the art of yoga stretches, you will find that these stretches will help alleviate even the smallest stress in your life. 

 Take a few minutes each day to practice some deep breathing while you stretch.  Close your eyes, if you have to, and envision a peaceful and calming environment. Hone in on your muscles to figure out if there are any pressure points. 

 Massage the tense areas as you practice deep breathing.

Whatever you do, remember that stress can be overcome with yoga.  Dealing with stress can be difficult, but using yoga to alleviate that stress is easy!

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How To Manage Stress With Music

Posted by at 25 May, 2009, 4:45 am

Listening to good music does wonders to make you feel good about yourself.  But did you also know that it’s a great way to help you relief stress?  For as long as history stretches back, music has been a big part of helping in stress management.

 And the great part is that you can listen to music at home, without having to worry about the stress of traffic or other people. 

 Everyone has a favorite type of music, whether it’s classical, adult contemporary or rock. 

 Even during biblical times, according to holistic healers, music was used as a way to help people relax. It helped boost people’s moods, and even today it has the same effect.

 When you are stressed out, adrenalin, the brain’s stress hormone, is released to help you function under pressure.  One benefit of adrenalin is that it gives you the extra push you need to launch into fight or flight mode. 

 If you’re favorite type of music is heavy metal, it may not be the best idea to indulge in listening to a Metallica cd, as heavy metal can make the heart race.  And why wouldn’t it?  Angry undertones may help you get out rage, but they’re not going to bring out your best, when it comes to stress management.

 So what can you do with music to help alleviate stress?

 One important thing to remember when it comes to music is that it is a natural stress reliever.  When I was younger, I would pop some CDs into my music system and just sit there as the music enveloped my thoughts.  What I found as I listened to the music was that my thoughts began to tune in with the music and brought back pleasant memories that brought me peace. 

 In addition, I began to think of all the world held in store and what opportunities still lay ahead of me.  As a result, I found that I felt a lot more relaxed when I walked back into my life.  I also discovered a newfound and renewed sense of self-confidence that I’d been lacking for a long time.

 Dance is another technique you can mix with music to alleviate stress.

 When you listen to music as a stress management technique, don’t be afraid to let yourself go and dance to the music.  A lot of the stress you feel comes from muscles tensing up within your body.  So naturally, it just feels good to let yourself go and have fun.

 As you do, stretch your arms out in front of you, and watch yourself in the mirror.  Admire what you see.  Really, it’s okay to do that!

 The best music for stress management is the kind that makes you feel good.  If you like pop music, keep a collection of pop hits on your ipod and listen.  Lay down if it helps. 

 Close your eyes and listen to the music.  Now this doesn’t mean you should fall asleep.  Watch yourself with that one, but closing your eyes for a few silent moments will help clear your mind and immerse you in the rhythm of the music.

 One more tip that may help you is to pick music that improves your mood.  If you’re feeling low, consider some upbeat music with a steady beat.  Happy music tends to have a good effect on your mood, and may actually enhance your overall attitude.

 If you’re having trouble deciding what type of music will help you relax, turn on the radio and sample what is playing. 

 If you’re used to doing things for others, take some time to think about yourself.  You do deserve some downtime.  Take advantage of it, even if only for a few minutes. 

 If you can’t afford fancy equipment, such as an ipod, a lot of libraries carry free cds and of course you can listen to the radio for free.

 Experts say that music can stimulate the brain and activate the much-needed relaxation necessary to reduce blood pressure and reduce your chances of a life-threatening illness. 

 Each song you listen to will bring a completely different feeling.  If you listen to a love song, you may be carried back to memories of someone you once loved and you may rexperience emotions you felt during those times.

 Lose yourself in the memory, and you will begin to see the positive effects of music as a relaxation technique. 

 If you are genuinely trying to improve your health and reduce stress at the same time, you may want to consider some new age music that simulates the sound of a forest and has peaceful instrument sounds woven throughout

As you sample different types of music, you are certain to come across something that appeals to you. Now go out and find that something!  

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Student stress and depression hit once again

Posted by at 25 May, 2009, 4:45 am

For some students, the worst is over: finals. For others, the worst is just beginning: the job market. It’s the perfect storm.

Every year at this time, some news organization, somewhere, assesses the mental stability of these students/graduates that are being slammed with the stresses associated with completing school, as well as taking the next step: finding a job.

Being in the midst of what many economists are positing is the worst recession since this country’s Great Depression doesn’t lend its hand to any sort of relief either.

So how exactly are students dealing with all the pressure? Not exactly well according to a just-released survey done by the Associated Press and mtvU.

“Eighty-five percent of the students reported feeling stress in their daily lives in recent months, with worries about grades, school work, money and relationships the big culprits,” claim Nancy Benac and Trevor Tompson, with the Associated Press.

The article continues on to say that 42 percent of the student’s surveyed have experienced depression related to these stresses in the past weeks. Also detailed are some of the numbers of those experiencing some mild to deep depression.

The one truly shocking detail was that of those students surveyed who had a parent recently lose their job, 13 percent indicated that they had contemplated taking their own life.

Now, I don’t claim to have any professional handle on college-related depression, but if you’re like me, you probably saw those first few statistics and said, “Big deal! They’re college students!” And there has some to be some truth there.

We have long known that poor sleeping habits, abnormal diets (including ones heavy on alcohol), finding work, and taking tests all contribute to stress, and in some cases depression. Heck, you’re not truly a college student without a full night’s sleep and a good dose of your daily coffee.

But the stat about contemplating suicide after a parent loses his/her job really does catch my attention.

Colleges across this country are more than equipped with enough resources for their students to take on their psychological aggravators. Peer groups, counseling departments, residence life departments, and even educators all have a role in encouraging the psychological well-being of students. This generation’s stresses are beginning to culminate, and now, more than ever, is the right time for these psychological resources to mobilize and instruct.

As a former Resident Advisor (RA), I know that one of the biggest myths that students believe about depression is that it is shameful for them to seek help, because they are abnormal in their feelings. This couldn’t be farther from the truth. Many students are undergoing this at the same time, and knowing that single fact alone is liberating.

Set aside all the unnecessary, hokey, feel-good programs that all too often are on our college campuses, and let’s make a concerted effort to reach out to all students, especially the ones who don’t reach out to you.

Things will eventually turn up again. Never fear.

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Managing Change

Posted by at 24 May, 2009, 8:11 pm

We seem to be undergoing huge change in our lives and much of it seems to be sudden.  Losing jobs and/or homes, changes in our finances, relocating to new residences, long term relationships ending, loved ones passing on.  If these things aren’t happening to you, chances are that it’s happening to people you know.

It can seem like just too much to manage.  You may feel like you have nothing solid or concrete to hold onto, no anchor in the storm.  Anxiety, worry, loneliness and fear are all over the place.

Here are a few things you can do to help you manage the seemingly unmanageable:

1.  Know that you will be ok.  You will get through this and you will feel even better than before when you are on the other side of the changing situation.  Change always brings gifts and you will see this in time.

2. Identify something in your life that isn’t changing.  It could be part of your daily routine such as walking the dog, preparing a meal or going to the gym.  Focus on these familiar aspects of your day to keep you grounded.

3.  Connect with friends and family with whom you feel most comfortable. Make a point to share time with them, even if just for a few minutes.   You don’t need to live near them, just connect somehow.  Ring them on the telephone, meet for coffee, schedule an outing of some kind.  Connecting with people we love makes us feel safe and reminds us that we are not alone.

4.  Choose one thing you love to do and do it daily or at least a few times a week.  Things like painting, cooking, going for a run, doing yoga or taking a bath. Even if it’s 10 minutes a day, do something you love.  This will center you, clear your head and allow peace and clarity to come.

Change is something we can’t always control but we can choose how to manage it.  These few steps will help you navigate these times by giving you the anchors that you need:  support, love, peace and clarity.   The unknown of change will seem much more manageable and you will have the courage to persevere and recognize the beauty and gifts of the outcome that change always brings.

Julie Farha is an intuitive, personal coach, speaker and author of Exploring Your Potential; Who am I and what am I doing here? She holds interactive seminars and is available for private sessions and speaking engagements., 480-626-5780

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Discover how to cure chronic cholecystitis and bile duct inflammation the safe allnatural way

Posted by at 24 May, 2009, 8:11 pm

Discover How to Cure Chronic Cholecystitis and Bile Duct Inflammation the Safe, All-Natural Way!


If you are suffering from chronic cholecystitis and bile duct inflammation this is definitely the most important letter you will read today!

Here’s why:

You may not have to undergo risky gallbladder removal surgery or suffer through symptoms that include pain in the right upper quadrant, low grade fever, vomiting and nausea.

Turns out the Chinese have had an effective treatment for these painful, life-disrupting conditions for thousands of years!

Please allow me to introduce Li Dan Pian!

Li Dan Pian is a combination of herbal ingredients that has been shown over thousands of years to dissolve gallstones, clear away heat and remove dampness and calculi in the gallbladder – and thereby, normalize the function of the gallbladder.

Li Dan Pian’s safe, all-natural ingredients include:

· Lysimachia

· Oriental wormwood

· Scutellaria root

· Aucklandia root

· Curcuma root

· Rhubarb

· Areca seed

· Immature bitter orange

· Magnolia bark

· Mirabilite.

Chinese herbal medicines like Li Dan Pian are growing in popularity!

You see, Chinese herbs are not only favored by Chinese people, they are gradually being recognized by the world.

Always respected by the Chinese and other Far East countries, Chinese medicine is growing in popularity mainly because of its few side effects, its cheap price and its all-natural ingredients.

Some extremely effective Chinese medicines have been produced for massive use and Li Dan Pian is one of them.

This is a pure Chinese herbal compound medicine for the treatment of chronic cholecystitis and bile duct inflammation.

It is one of the most protected traditional Chinese medicines in all of China, and that’s saying something as the Chinese have been using herbs to heal and prevent illness for over 5,000 years!

Li Dan Pian has obvious positive effects. The vast majority of patients who take it soon feel no discomfort. Adverse reactions to the medicine are minimal.

In fact, Li Dan Pian is so effective that it is widely used by Chinese Doctors.

This herbal combination was originally developed specifically to treat acute and chronic gallstone inflammation and at present, almost no medicine can match it’s effectiveness in the treatment of chronic cholecystitis and bile duct inflammation.

So if you are tired of feeling pain in your gall bladder …

If you are fed up with feeling nauseous …

It’s time you discovered what the Eastern World has known for centuries – Traditional Chinese Medicine works!

Over thousands of years, the Chinese have uncovered and refined hundreds of herbal treatments for everything from Bronchitis to Sciatica to Acne to Infertility to the Prostate to Stress & Anxiety to Backaches to Impotence to Infertility to even Hair Loss and much, much more!

Li Dan Pian is one of the most effective herbal treatments the Chinese have discovered and it is much less expensive than most modern medical treatments. It also does not have risky side effects like so many of today’s prescription drugs.

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What Would It Take To Get Rid Of Communication Anxiety In Our Society?

Posted by at 22 May, 2009, 6:15 pm

Are you aware of the expression “communication anxiety”?  Have you ever felt utterly mortified when you couldn’t find the words to deal with a specific situation?  It shows up differently for everyone.  Some feel horrified, some feel inept, some say it feels like they can’t get air and some even begin to feel unwell.  A cruel form of communication anxiety is known as road rage.  This insufferable behavior can be very brutal.

It happens at all the most terrible times and places.  The most common are the job interview, a blind date, being held accountable for a mistake or unethical act, or when you find yourself needing to do some public speaking.  Speaking in public can be the most complex one of all.

I refer to this wellness category as INTERPERSONAL WELLNESS – OUR COMMUNICATION.  It’s an important category because individuals must relate to each other in most situations in life.

Interpersonal wellness or lack of it shows up in different forms.  For some, it means they can’t find the words and for others, it means they become verbose.  Have you ever met someone who seems to be inebriated with the exuberance of his or her own verbosity?  There is a term for this form of communication anxiety – cocktail party syndrome.  We have all met these types before.

The pendulum swings far in both directions.  In one corner, we have cocktail party syndrome and in the other corner, we have the quiet, shy mouse that never gets her needs met because she can never find the words.  There are many variations on the theme and many levels of communication anxiety.  Where do you fit?  Do you feel you manage interpersonal wellness in your life?  Have you ever even considered the topic?

Marketing guru, Faith Popcorn wrote a book a few years back called the Popcorn Report.  In this book, she identified several consumer-buying trends that are shaping our world.  The most important trend she talked about was “Cocooning”, which is the need that people have, to stay in their homes as much as possible.  This trend has brought about the success of many industries including, Internet-based social networking such as Twitter, MySpace and Facebook; the computer-based gaming industry; online shopping, distance education; and of course, our old friend, television.

The more fearful people become about leaving their homes and going out into the big, bad, dangerous world, the more problems that occur in the realm of interpersonal wellness.  The farther people retreat into their comfort zones, the more communication anxiety they feel when they step out of it.

Lack of interpersonal wellness has caused more problems than you might think.  Because they spend so little time with adults, many children are growing up not knowing how to communicate with adults and as a result, it is believed that kids today are disrespectful or rude.  Young people going out into the world for their first jobs are having a terrible time because they lack basic self-management skills such as the ability to communicate effectively.  No matter the age group or the situation, communication anxiety is gaining ground and interpersonal wellness is losing ground.

The biggest impact of this trend is an increase in stress levels in peoples’ lives.  Extreme ongoing life stress, particularly the bad kind (distress), leads to the build up of oxidative stress in the body, also known as free-radical damage.  This oxidative stress is a key factor in the formation of one or more chronic degenerative diseases, such as asthma or diabetes or arthritis.  These chronic degenerative diseases, of which there are more than 70 known versions, steal quality of life and lead to death.  The vicious cycle is so unnecessary.

How can we return to a state of interpersonal wellness, individually and as a society; and eliminate or reduce communication anxiety?  How can we reduce stress caused by our inability to communicate effectively with others?

Solving any wellness challenge is simply a matter of learning some critical thinking and problem solving skills.  First, we all need to learn more about our own style of communicating.  We live in a world of blame and we look for scapegoats at all cost.  It’s time to take responsibility for ourselves.  Are you aggressive, passive aggressive or controlling?  Are you lazy, arrogant, or miserable?  None of these is a problem unless we don’t take responsibility for them.  None of these styles is bad in small doses, either, but if your communication style is consistently one of these models, then it’s time to look at learning a new way to communicate.

It’s time to get that chip off your shoulder.  Your neighbour did not create your lousy childhood memories; your children are not responsible for your failed hopes and dreams; and your coworkers are not responsible for your bad attitude and lousy marks while you were in school.  So stop taking out your past on the people around you.  Instead, look to the future and build a new style.

Interpersonal wellness is a choice, just as living with communication anxiety is a choice.  Achieving and maintaining interpersonal wellness is simply a matter of learning a few new skills.  Once you do, you will see that you do have the power to take back control of your health and your life.

After all, we are all accountable, are we not?

Jill Prince is the “PRINCE OF WELLNESS.” She is the author and founder of and Solving the Wellness Challenge (TM). Through these companies, Jill teaches people how to solve all their wellness challenges using effective problem solving tools and techniques based on sound business and project management theories. Jill is, currently, a student in a Master’s of Business Administration (MBA) Degree program through the University of Athabasca and she is a graduate of the E-Myth Worldwide Business Mastery Impact Program (2008).

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